I’ve been trying to finish this blog post for weeks. I keep writing, deleting, re writing, forgetting to write, procrastinating writing, changing what I wanted to write, questioning whether anyone would care to read about what I am about to write…the list goes on. Long story short, I am finally posting my latest blog and sharing with you some positive things I have learned in the last year. First for those of you who are moms, wow, making a human is truly an incredible gift. From the moment I found out I was pregnant, to when we saw our baby and heard his heart beat on the first ultrasound, to feeling him move around inside of my belly for the first time, then when I first went into labour, the first contractions, the moment I was able to start pushing and then BOOM MAX ARRIVED! I get emotional as I write this as it has been the most amazing experience and it really has flown by. On April 8 2017, Sam and I’s lives changed forever. And today I will be sharing with you a few of the lessons he has taught me so far…and yes, it’s only been one year!
- He makes everyone who meets him smile. Whether it’s a stranger at the grocery store or at a restaurant or on the street as we go for a walk, a friend, relative, aunt, uncle, grandparent, etc there hasn’t been a single person who Max hasn’t made smile. I thought that Sam and I were the only ones who thought Max was so cute and precious but apparently he (and most babies, let’s be honest!) has this super power to bring a bit of sunshine and add a smile to someone’s day. This warms my heart. Thanks to Max for showing me that babies bring joy to so many people’s lives, not just your parents 😉
- My love for my baby never runs out. Babies require constant love and attention, especially in the first year I have learned haha. I have never once gotten tired (even when sleep deprived in the first few months or coming home after a busy day of work) of giving Max constant hugs, kisses, diaper changes, bottles, food, rocks, cuddles, singing to him, bathing him, the list goes on. Never ever did I realize that I could love someone so much. The way he smiles and runs to me when I come home from work to the way he cuddles in my arms as I put him to sleep never gets old. Yes I love my husband til death to us part but this love is different. Moms (and pet owners), you know what I mean 😉 SO thank you Max for showing me what unconditional love feels like.
- Time slows down. Life becomes simpler. You start to recognize what really matters and what is worth letting go of. Those who know me know I used to be doing a million things in a week, social activities, getting together with friends, working out, training clients all day, every day, constantly posting on social media, etc etc. Since meeting Sam and having Max, my life has slowwwwwwwed down, a lot. And to be honest, I LOVE IT. I feel less (almost no) guilt when I don’t make time to workout, enjoy doing nothing and truly enjoy my day to day life. I work less, workout less, post on social media less (except for my instagram stories oops), and in general I do less. Partially it is because being a mom requires so much of my time that when I am not training clients I am with my baby. And I am totally OK with that. Seriously, mom and Max time is my fave. Even better when Sam is with us too 😉 I am more present than I have ever been. Thank you Max for helping me to slow down and enjoy every minute that we get to spend together.
- My mom is an amazing person, a super mom and the best glam-ma. There is no book, internet forum, or app on your phone that will give you better advice or greater help than your own mom (or mom in law!) I haven’t read a single book on how to raise a baby (other than a book called Sleep Sense-highly recommend), followed an app, or read through any mom forums on the internet. Tips to new moms…1. Trust your instincts, you know more than you think you know and 2. ASK YOUR MOM FOR HELP! (And to those of you who have lost your mom or your mom is far away, please know that you have your mother’s love and strength within you and even though she isn’t with you physically she is with you everyday and is so proud of the wonderful mom you have become. I hope you have someone in your life who can be your ‘mom mentor’ even if your mom is not with you.) Now I know some of you may think I am crazy in saying this but what they say is true, we know our child best so why question that? And I repeat…our mom’s are our best resource. They raised us and we have turned out alright, am I right? Thank you Max for allowing me to appreciate my mom (and dad!) more and more each and every day xo
- I have the best partner in the world, Sam. I KINDA knew this before having Max but seriously the way Sam is with our baby is phenomenal. Sometimes I feel as if he cares for Max more than I do. He is calm, caring, supportive, loving, affectionate, happy, playful, and most of all he is committed to being the best dad he can be to Max. It has been amazing watching Sam transform into ‘super’ dad. He actually gets to spend more time with Max than I do as he is home with Max during the day and heads out to work in the afternoon. If Max grows up to be anything like his father, this world will be a better place and I will be one very happy and proud mom. Seriously though, Sam is doing an incredible job being a dad and partner and seeing how much he loves and cares for Max makes me love and appreciate him even more. He talks about having another baby all the time, what mom doesn’t swoon when they hear their partner talk about that? So thank you Max for making me appreciate how blessed I am to have your father in my life.
Now I have learned a LONG list of things about parenthood and what it takes to be a working mom but I thought 5 was a good number to start with 😉 Perhaps I’ll share more tips in another blog post!?
I’m curious though, do any of my mom friends want to share anything they have learned since becoming a mom? Go ahead, share with us in the comments….