Valentine’s Day is a difficult holiday for many people. The single people feel left out, people in relationships worry about what to buy their significant other or what they can get them for free, and couples stress over finding just the right way to say “I love you” to each other. Good news! I have come up with a few ways to help you ditch the stress and stop feeling sorry for yourself this Valentine’s Day: Practice loving yourself (I am serious) instead! Here are 8 ways to do that…
1- Create an in-home spa day for yourself
Did you know that it’s actually possible to give yourself a massage? Other great in-home spa ideas include taking a relaxing bath with sea salt and essential oils, and giving yourself an all natural facial.
2- Practice meditation and yoga
There is no better way to say “I love you” than investing time in listening to yourself, getting to know who you really are, and learning what truly brings you happiness. Yoga and meditation both offer us a way to do these things.
3- Take yourself on a date
If you’re open to spending a little money this Valentine’s Day, here’s what I recommend: Think of what your perfect date this would be — where you would go, what you would do, what you would eat, etc., and then do it yourself! The beauty of taking yourself on a date is that you get to do EXACTLY what you enjoy. Bet you’ve never thought about doing this now did you?
4- Re-evaluate your relationships
Toxic relationships can suck out all of our energy and really bring us down. A great gift to yourself on this relationship-focused holiday might be to evaluate which relationships are serving you, and which are not. Then, make a plan to nourish and develop the ones that are healthy, and cut down on time spent on relationships that are unhealthy. (this is a super important one that we should be doing regularly)
5- Cook a fabulous meal for yourself
Cooking for one, when that “one” is yourself, is something that many people struggle to find the motivation to do. When we think about making a meal for ourselves, we often think, “Why put so much time and energy into cooking when it’s only for me?” And this is a problem. When we think of ourselves as “only me,” we are diminishing our self-worth. Here’s the thing: You are worth it! This Valentine’s Day, practice loving yourself by cooking a very healthy and delicious meal, and then enjoying every bite!
6- Treat yourself to dark chocolate and wine for dessert
Dark chocolate and wine are the perfect Valentine’s Day dessert. They’re both delicious, luxurious, and even offer health benefits ! Just make sure the chocolate contains 70 percent cocoa or higher, and keep it to no more than two glasses of wine ;).
7- Practice using positive affirmations or positive self talk.
Positive affirmations are a great way to reduce negative self-talk and increase self-confidence.It might seem silly to some of you to do this but the more you do it, the better and more positive you’ll feel. Give it a try. Here are my own personal positive affirmations.
You are beautiful. You are smart. You are strong. You are loved. You are enough. You are AWESOME!
8- Make a list of things you love about yourself
If you can only do one of these things on Valentine’s Day, make it this. Write down at least 10 things you love about yourself. They can be personality traits, physical features, things you have accomplished — anything! Continue to refer to this list even after Valentine’s Day. You can read it once a day or whenever you experience moments of criticism and self-doubt.
Although so much emphasis on loving yourself may seem selfish, or strange to some, the reality is that we have very little energy and love to give to others if we don’t put ourselves first sometimes. Let’s start today.
Happy Valentine’s Day! I hope today is one of MANY days that you choose to love yourself.